You will never question if he loves you (or not) after THIS.

There is a very specific kind of story I hear over and over again from deeply spiritual, self-aware women.

An example looks like…

“He told me he really liked me over text. Then right before we were supposed to meet, he cancelled last minute and said he got really busy. But then he followed it up with a super cute, flirty joke. He said he has never thought seriously about someone until he met me. He brought me flowers. But then I later found out he also gave flowers to his ex.”

And then the spiral begins.

So does he like me more than anyone else?
Maybe he really is interested.
Maybe he isn’t.
But then maybe he is.

If you recognize yourself in any of this— wondering if he likes your OR not, ever, I want you to pause with me for a moment.

If you find yourself worrying about a man, stressing about a man, trying to overthink your way into certainty about whether he likes you or not, whether he will commit or not, if you are trying to decode him like he is some complex emotional puzzle, I want you to hear this clearly.

What you are engaging in right now is not love. It is anxiety.

And I am saying that with so much compassion.

When you are replaying conversations, analyzing tone shifts, re-reading texts, tracking response times, scanning facial expressions, and ruminating over what he did or did not do, that is not intuition. That is not discernment. That is your inner sabotager coming online.

It does not actually matter what the answer is to the question “does he like me?”

Because as long as you are engaging in obsessive mental spiraling and emotional decoding, you will continue to attract men who are confusing, inconsistent, and emotionally unavailable. You will not attract the steady, secure, emotionally available love you say you want.

And I know you. You are deeply spiritual. You are introspective. You can read energy. You can feel shifts in the room. You can sense when something is off from a mile away. You are often incredibly accurate with people.

Except when it comes to your love life.

With men, it suddenly feels different.

You tell yourself it is intuition, yet you keep finding yourself confused. He says one thing and does another. He tells you he is interested, but does not prioritize time with you. He says he wants a relationship, but then claims he needs space, time, or freedom. There is always a contradiction. Always something you have to interpret, explain away, or justify.

So you stay stuck. You feel lost. You feel unsure. You wonder if he still likes you. You wonder if you said the wrong thing. You wonder if you should wait a little longer.

Even when you finally get into a relationship, you cannot fully relax. There is a constant background fear that he could lose interest, find someone better, or leave if you are not careful enough.

If any of this resonates, I want to gently tell you something important.

Those thoughts are not you.

The one who is constantly worrying. The one who is walking on eggshells. The one who is trying to understand men. The one who is scanning for signs of abandonment.

That is not your intuition. That is not your higher self.

That is your false self. Your fear-based mind. Your small self that learned very early on that love is not safe.

As long as you are acting from that place, always trying to figure a man out, you are delaying yourself from receiving your life partner. Not because you are broken, but because your nervous system is oriented toward threat instead of safety.

What ends up happening is predictable. When you are anxious and overthinking, you become magnetized to men who are also confusing. Men who say one thing and do another. Men who lack integrity between words and actions. Men who cannot meet you consistently.

And the more you try to understand them, justify them, or energetically read them, the more attached you become to men who do not have the capacity to love you in the way you desire.

This is exactly what one of my clients experienced before coming into the work.

Every date felt like a test. In between dates, she was constantly stressed. She watched endless videos asking “does he like me or not.” She took online quizzes. Because she was spiritual, she consulted psychics and pulled tarot cards, trying to get certainty about whether the man she was seeing cared about her.

On dates, she performed. She tried to be the palatable woman. The good girl. The easy one. If a man’s tone shifted or his mood changed, she immediately panicked internally and asked herself what she had done wrong and how she could fix it.

Because of this, real connection never formed. Long-term partnership felt out of reach.

When we went deeper, the root became clear. She had grown up with a father who was demeaning, judgmental, and emotionally absent. As a child, she learned that love had to be earned through vigilance and self-monitoring. She learned to overthink her way into connection.

So of course she did the same with men.

But here is the truth most women never hear.

When you are constantly wondering whether someone likes you, you are living inside the consciousness of a victim. You are relying on external validation to feel safe. Your sense of wholeness is dependent on another person’s behavior.

As long as you are scanning others for signs of approval, your inner world will never feel stable.

The shift that changed everything for her, and for every woman who does this work deeply, was not learning how to decode men better.

It was learning how to feel safe within herself.

When you create inner safety, something profound happens. You stop overthinking. You stop justifying. You stop reading into energy. You stop analyzing potential.

You start looking at what is actually happening.

Men are not as complex as anxiety makes them seem. When a man truly wants you, he shows it through action. He prioritizes you. He makes plans. He follows through. He claims you.

Confusion is not mystery. Confusion is information.

When you feel safe within yourself, you no longer evaluate men based on how they make you feel or what they say. You evaluate them based on how they show up in the present moment.

And this is the fastest path to attracting a healthy, secure, emotionally available partner.

A man who is available will not keep you guessing. He will not keep you anxious. He will not keep you decoding. He will make you feel chosen now, not someday.

If you are calling in that kind of love, the work is not to search harder for answers outside of you.

It is to build safety inside of you.

And if you desire personalized, hand-held support in doing exactly that, my one-on-one coaching exists for this reason. I offer free introductory consultations so you can gain clarity and direction, whether or not we decide to work together. The link is right here.

You do not have to keep living in confusion to receive real love.